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I feel the worst thing people can do is to NOT TALK ABOUT the person you have lost/are grieving/are honoring. People tend to believe they are doing you a favor by not bringing up the subject or person you are mourning the loss of. They are trying to protect you from feeling sad, and their intentions are likely good. Still, the sufferer longs to talk about, remember, and reminisce about the loved one they lost. It hurts to feel abruptly disconnected from - not only their physical presence after death, but also stifled from referencing and celebrating their overarching presence in every facet of daily life.

To support a grieving individual- Say something. Say anything. Help the grieving individual keep the spirit and presence of their loved one alive and a part of them, even after death.

Thank you.

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This is so true, thank you for sharing. I'm going to include in my latest letter xxx

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I remember making the soup. Mum loved it. And so it was a pleasure and a comfort to make: because she so enjoyed eating it.

After she died, it was so lovely working with Suzanne Dance on our show, LEAVE TO REMAIN, and performing it together, and then feeling ti bring comfort to us, and also to those who saw it.

And I guess the commissions I received to write for BBC Radio 4, and EVERY ONE for the Lyceum. Acts of creation, in whatever form, always help.

Just as your beautiful work on this newsletter is also doing....

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I remember somebody once saying to me "However you're feeling is normal" and it really stuck with me and helped. <3

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